There's this guy who comes into work, he almost always comes in with his 3 year old daughter, if I were to guess his age I could say he is probably about 23, he has very short (almost bald) blonde hair, he's is just a little shorter then I am, I would say around 5', and his front teeth are missing. I never really thought much about this guy, he is just another customer to me...
The other day he came without his daughter, something looked different about him. He sounded different. Sure enough, I saw he now had front teeth. Right at that moment I realized what was different, he smiles and asks me "Notice anything different about me", I looked at him and lied (I still don't know why, I really shouldn't have), I replied "No, you look the same to me". I seen a slight frown in his face then he responded "Oh, I got new teeth" then he lifted his frown into a smiled, feeling kinda bad I had lied I just say "Well, I see a lot of people, its hard to remember everyone" there was that slight frown again so then he said "You'll probably recognize me in my work clothes", still feeling bad for lying I just say "Yeah, probably. But either way you look really nice with them". Then he began to tell me how he used to always be shy around me because of not having all of his teeth. I don't remember what I responded to that. But the next day he actually asked me if I wanted his number. I wasn't expecting that from him. Thankfully, now that I'm dating someone I have a seemly nice way to reject them without them realized that I am not attracted. I didn't really think much about this until the other day when I was talking with a friend of mine and it just so happens he doesn't have all his front teeth either, and he was afraid the girl he likes (online dating) will not like him anyone once she finds out he is missing some of them. Of course, I told him the story of that guy, then I pretty much told him this; "If that's the reason they she won't like you your better off without her anyways... It's like with the customer from work, he assumed I wouldn't like him without the his teeth, once he got them he had a whole new confidence, but still it didn't make a difference to me that he had no teeth, plain and simple I don't like him like that. If someone is gonna like you something as little as your teeth shouldn't make a difference. They should like you for your personality, not just looks, now don't get me wrong, I fully believe you should be attracted to whomever your dating, but that shouldn't be the only factor, anyways, people can have teeth missing and still be attracting". Of course, I know what I said didn't help him at all, because I know what it's like to have no confidence because of a physical feature, it doesn't matter what anyone says until someone actually proves that they will like you even with whatever feature you don't like about yourself. Actually at one point in my life I convinced myself that a guy would never love me because of my dry skin, the logic I had sounds ridiculous to me now, but honestly, I would probably still think that if it wasn't for me holding hands with a guy and him not pulling his hand away or something. As far as I know, he didn't even think twice about it, or at least it didn't stop him from holding my hand again, all my worry was over absolutely nothing, nothing at all. Same as with my friend's worry about the girl he likes deciding she won't like him anymore because of his teeth, she didn't care. So really, nobody is gonna think twice about whatever feature your worried about, and if they do, they just aren't for you.
04-04-2014
